Chikin-itis!

As usual, l want to look at this thought out loud.

Okay.

Dr. Dr.

Give me the news, I got a bad case of…

Oh my goodness!

Chikin-itis.

I have displayed all the symptoms……

• procrastination
• distraction tactics
• self-sabotage

Is it contagious? Yes!

I am wired to worry and I think it sucks balls.

I feel at times I’m continuously in a push and pull to move forward to heal perceptions, feelings, emotions, and beliefs.

It is tireless work to create a new mindset, one less fraught with faulty reasoning.

I have come to realize you can never ensure 100% success of a new personal improvement plan.

And, you cannot predict the future with 100% assurance either.

The Sky is Increasing…. Being Busy Out Loud 

Have you ever caught yourself running around like your hair is on fire

I have.

I was doing the most, dos mucho!

Plain and simple —  unfocused busyness.

I admit it, I was doing just a lil too much…..research, stalling, doubting, perfecting, and worrying….

The list surely can go on.

Worry breeds fear of the unknown.

And fear can breed inaction.

My Invisible Boogeyman 

Dreams

We all have them big and small.

I had the dream of publishing on a writing platform called Medium.

And in my daydreaming this ambition, I fiddle-farted around and around and around.

I constructed a myriad of reasons for my failure to launch.

Quite honestly, I was scared sh*tless.

I was afraid I was not good enough.

It was like having Freddie Kruger as your BFF.

The Perceived Risky Endeavor

You see, the probability of success of a new personal improvement plan can increase when approached as a series of phases in a process.

The process is:

• investigate (a wide selection of potential change opportunities)
• set the change intention
• execute (practice)

Optimally, the actions put forth to implement the plan will increase the certainty of success.

All Bets Are Off – No Guarantees

Improvement with creativity is critical and one of the ways to achieve continuous growth and development.

A successful improvement plan will require focus and an iterative attention over the process to address issues and concerns in a proactive manner.

In this way, the maintenance and validation of the process can definitely augment the insurance of your success.

When my approach is proactive instead of reactive, I address issues and concerns more effectively.

In other words, I move toward solutions easily like a commitment to write on the Medium platform and doing it.

First Think About YOUR Process

Essentially, it’s about continuous learning

• how to investigate
• what information to acquire
• when to execute the plan
• why maintenance is imperative (change management).

From my own experience, at the very beginning I start with:

1. a search for trigger signs in the environment (my present life circumstances..)
2. select strategies, alternatives, and execution (the how).

The most favorable consequence of this process is a realistic strategic plan for personal growth and development designed by you.

No Fluff, just Straight Getting IT!

Develop An Adaptable Perspective

I mentioned I have a propensity to over scrutinize myself, relationships, and my work.

I have also been known to overthink a time or two (a cough– bullsh*t).

Nevertheless, I continue to push towards progress in the best manner possible.

Sometimes simply, sometimes with a little difficulty.

I endeavor to engage and incorporate reflection and perspective shifts to vanquish my boogeyman.

My perspective has become flexible and adaptable.

In a practical manner, this means I examine my assumptions underlying my actions,

the impact of those actions,

and from a broader perspective, what may pass as a good application for me.

I do my best to practice conscious awareness and understanding, then execute decisions and actions.

Some More About This Personal Strategy Thing

It’s a simple process, Really.

Let me deepen this thought.

Consider this, your life is your environment and your business.

It is sensible and smart to assess your life and the wide range of environmental signals it contains, internally and externally.

These environmental signals carry extreme relevance to the prospective change plan.

The assessment is an aid to select tools and steps in the process to develop a good strategic fit for success.

The final actions are observe and manage the various stages of the change development.

Such as, when and where to stop projects and where and when to accelerate them.

In this manner, your plan becomes an adaptable, flexible, intentional commitment to growth.

Let Me Read Your Palm — The Knowledge Application   

Possessing knowledge and ‘knowing’ is invaluable.

When decisions are a challenge and knowledge is difficult to acquire, to proceed forward is not determined by just information.

It is the knowing which will move you forward.

The process of deciding relevance regarding existing practical information.

The following actions then become timely –  right time knowledge, for the right reasons, and with the proper emphasis.

The confidence gained from plan execution creates your voice.

It’s Time to believe what you can do and do it!

Come join me.

As always and with Mighty Love,  I encourage you to be curious, question, and manage change like a boss!

So in parting……Be an Eagle, Not a Chikin.

Stay Golden

drB

 

 Like a punch to productivity, procrastination is the bain of my existence.  I probably have a degree in it!!! Haha.  But really, how to stop procrastinating? I believe it has everything to do with how we take action.

When we take action, this can mean a few things such as 1) a need to understand what it is; 2) recognize when it is in action; 3) take time to reason it out and adjust actions, and finally, 4) a plan to stop procrastination through a strategy or strategies.

Know What It Is

Click on the link above. I think you will agree, the video gives a pretty accurate depiction of what procrastination is. For all intensive purposes, our working definition is ….. the intentional act of postponement.

On a personal level, this action can seriously stunt personal growth relating to one’s feelings of accomplishment and satisfaction.  Equally important to one’s professional career, this type of postponement is a disruptive force to advancement.

Recognize When Procrastination is Afoot!

I will be the first to admit yes, I drag my feet to take action.  I procrastinate for numerous reasons and you may be able to relate to this.  The best thing we can do for ourselves is to recognize when we are because it can be overt and quite sneaky.

Overtly, this could be seen as the constant missing of important job deadlines.  As a sneaky intruder, this is checking email or fussing around on social media, under the illusion of working.

Certainly, when we engage in other activities that are not productive, we are postponing constructive actions.

Take Time to Reason and Adjust Action 

Think about this, if we take the time to recognize when we are procrastinating, we practice awareness.  The awareness allows us to examine the “why” and make a plan to stop.

Self-awareness acts as an aid in seeing it and how it creates undue personal stress.  Our recognition increases self-confidence and pinpoints what is contributing to our postponement and stress.

You simply must think about the potential sources and their association. Giving a name to the reason for the postponement is enlightening and valuable information.

Strategize 

Now is a good a time as any to offer a few actions to help bring this issue to a halt.  After you recognize and examine why you are not productive, create some strategies to stop.  This is a sensible action.

First, let’s return to the topic of being aware.  Again, awareness is essential because it cues you into knowing the “what” and “why” you continuously postpone or goof-off.

Stop Procrastination

The following are a couple of actions one can take…..

If it has to do with….

• job or work: remember seeking out new employment is always an option.  What’s more, if it pertains to just the work itself, commit yourself to either enhancing your capabilities and skills or finding a way to make the job a little less tedious.
• performing an unpleasant task: do the task(s) first.  Make the personal attempt to get those task(s) out of the way and leave the more enjoyable ones to the end.
• personal organization: not your forte, there are a few tools to help with this: to-do lists for prioritizing and accountability, personal planners, mobile applications, and more. I am sure there is a “tool” just for you.
• a BIG project: one step to ease the overwhelm is breaking the project down into smaller chunks of work. Another tip to keeping the project in perspective….commit to approaching the venture like the adage says…. eat an elephant, One Bite At A Time.

Tool

As always I wouldn’t be doing my thing if I did not give you a tool……. “3” minutes to kicking procrastination in the BUTT! Check out the……The Quick Step.

Know you can do it…

You can put a halt to it, just takes a personal commitment to recognize, prioritize, and develop strategies to stop it in its tracks. This is about managing change too!

Pushing you to the TOP! From my heart, soul, & mind to yours……I encourage to stay curious and manage change like a Boss!

Stay Golden

drB

Critical, Reflective & Positive Thinking

Have you ever paid attention to your thoughts, Seriously!  You see, if we desire to manage change, we have to be aware of how and what we think!  Science has shown, we engage the above modes of thinking daily. We just don’t pay attention or take time to distinguish our thoughts. This is going to be part “2” of Know Thyself.

The Trumpets Sound! Here are the “3” Amigos of thinking— critical, reflective, and positive.

Our discussion will center on how important it is to be aware of these types of thinking, and how they aid you to make sound decisions!!  Our thoughts are the #1 thing that will lead and secure genuine positive change.  Wherever there is personal discord and conflict, these three will be there to see you through…..

Our discussion will center on how important it is to be aware of these types of thinking, and how they aid you to make sound decisions!!  Our thoughts are the #1 thing that will lead and secure genuine positive change.  Wherever there is personal discord and conflict, these three will be there to see you through…..

Do You Think Critically?

Amigo #1

First, let’s hit a definition of what is “critical thinking.” A noun — this is the intentional analysis and assessment of an issue, personal or otherwise, to form a judgment.

D’ Problem 
I said it above, we all think, it is natural.  However, much of our thinking, left to its own devices, will be JACKED!  What am I saying…..our thoughts have the greatest potential to be biased, distorted, partial, uninformed, or downright prejudiced!  YIKES!!

Here’s the RUB…. our actions and life depend on what we create and will vary precisely on the quality of our thoughts.  Slapdash and careless thinking is Exxxpensive, Deary!! Both in life experience and quality.  The quality of one’s thoughts must be cultivated systematically.

Analyze & Assess Your Thoughts

What to do, what to do?…..

Second, identify and question the issue and its purpose. Check for clarity, truth, care, strength, common sense, and fairness.  In doing so, we assess the information surrounding the question/issue, our personal opinion(s), guesses, allegations, main impression(s), and point of view! A lot HUH?!?

D’ Result 
I can attest, by doing the above, we cultivate the ability to think critically. 

 Bonus! That’s not all, some more good stuff…..

• You can now raise very important questions to clear and precise problems
• Possess the ability to collect and evaluate available and correct information
• Helps you in developing well-reasoned and common sense conclusions
• Creates a habit of thinking open-mindedly concerning personal assumptions and realistic consequences
• You learn how to craft improved and effective solutions to difficult problems

I think we can see, critical thinking is among the first instruments to manage personal change.  Be it for no other reason than, it will condition the mind to examine the form and function of everything you encounter.

But, please be mindful, critical thinking without knowledge is embarrassingly inactive.  Kind of like Wonder Woman without her Magic Lasso!! DOH!  Remember this, thought and knowledge need each other.  We now leave Amigo #1.  Onward to the next compadre in this trio is…..reflective thinking. 

Amigo #2

Reflect on WHAT?

Of equal importance is reflective thinking, a component in the process to think critically. This aspect is the intentional process of analyzing and making judgments about what has happened — specifically your experience in thoughts and actions.

Think of it like this….critical thinking and reflective thinking are often used to mean the same.

But, there is a difference and also a kindred purpose. Critical thinking is used to describe the situation, circumstance, issue, challenge, and problem.  It is precisely controlled calculated thinking!

In comparison,  reflective thinking is a dynamic, determined, and watchful consideration of one’s personal beliefs and the further conclusions made based on this knowledge.  As part of the critical thinking process, active reflective thoughts present a bridge between the gap in your problem-solving strategies and your goal.

Whomp! There it is! Reflection as a practice presents large benefits in increasing your self-awareness, which is another key component in developing a better understanding of self and others.  Drumroll….here we are at Amigo #3…. 

The BOOM BAM EFFECTS of Positive Thinking                                      

In your everyday life, you always have a choice of how to respond to any situation, whether personal or professional.  We are always faced with all kinds of positive and negative events that will present an echo in our inner life.Our mental strength lies in meeting and interpreting these events.

An optimistic perspective is a win in our personal development.  Paramount is your optimism and positive thoughts as a stress reducer! BOOM BAM!  Feeling better! You are engaging in stress management.  Understand me here….positive thinking and positive self-talk are a healthy combo! For REAL…

That seemingly never-ending out pouring of thoughts in your head is self-talk, and can be positive or negative….Plain & Simple!  Some of this self-talk is just commonsensical meanderings and sometimes it is based on misconceptions from one’s lack of information.

May I suggest, Getting yo’ facts Right, first, to handle this *SCHTUFFY* (yes, I said..schtuffy!) self-talk.  A healthy dose of positivity, information, and self-knowledge does the trick every time!!!  Not to be misunderstood, being optimistic and rosy doesn’t mean that you walk around Laddie-da!

Opportunities for growth become more apparent.  It simply means choosing to adopt a more positive perspective regardless of what’s going ON!  Our approach and how we handle the unpleasantness of life can add more confidence, more positivity and effective and productive problem-solving to our development tool box.

You simply choose to take the time to consider and expect a better outcome and not the opposite.  An Important point to consider….OUR thoughts in OUR head will dictate OUR outlook on OUR life — positive thought reaps positive action! *mic drop*

A Purposeful Journey through Thinking

So, why did we take that little journey?  Well, I’ll tell you.  When we engage these ways of thinking, we help ourselves in managing anything life can throw at us!  I cannot stress how necessary it is to recognize how you are thinking daily.

The bonus from this practice, is our thoughts become a more directed activity through critical, reflective, and positive thinking processes. This is essential…remember you write, direct, and co-create your life, you can always RE-create and change course!!!  Practice conscious thinking, be present, and engage every moment and every glory!

My darlings, as always and with Mighty Love,  I encourage you to be curious, question, and manage change like a boss!

Stay Golden.

drB

 

 

 

 

 

Know Thyself: Why It Is Important?

I touch on what managing change is, how different stages affect the life environment, and also offered some tool(s) and suggestions for your consideration. Ya!  

This latest elucidation is about what it is to “know thyself,” an instrumental element to successful personal change.

Self-management or “knowing thyself” was coined by Peter F. Drucker, a business management guru. He discussed the importance of self-knowledge in one’s personal and professional career life.

Now, I’m, going to use his thoughts to conceptually present a manner of thinking.  I’m talking about self-control and knowing your personal power.

Drucker put forth the following statement “do not try to change yourself – you are unlikely to succeed. work to improve the way you achieve” (2005). 

Think about it, if you lack self-knowledge or fail to plan, you plan to FAIL! That’s a real BOO!

Environmental P.S.

In the environment scan post, I emphasized the importance of doing a scan (internal and external) and to ask the hard uncomfortable questions.  The scan and questions are the ideas to structure a process to maximize the positives of the CHANGE!

This exercise will be an adventure, UBetcha!! And it will aid in gaining a better knowledge of self.

I propose an examination of the — who, what, where and how — of life. 

We’ll call them the “4” Quadrants. 

FIRST…Who “R” U?

To do anything well, you’ll need to cultivate a deep understanding of yourself. Period! No, I am not saying this kind of knowledge happens overnight, By Golly! but it can happen.  I

t is all about setting intentions to not only know what your strengths and weakness are but also how you learn and work, and what your values are.

• Strengths
• Weaknesses
• Desires
• Intentions

In knowing all this, YOU come into the fullness and beauty of SELF.  We can perform better through this knowledge as a benefit to develop ourselves in immeasurable ways.

Enhance your Super Powers!

SECOND…What Can U Do? 

To manage self, one must ask, “what are my values?”  This question has everything to do with — what you will and will not tolerate!  

Easier said than done, tolerance can be tricky. You see, if allowed, people will put us in some very interesting and challenging situations. 

However, you do not have to attend every drama-laden, angst-ridden, occurrence in your life!

Check it out – consistent interaction with people whose value system is unacceptable or incompatible with yours leads to both frustration and non-activity….

Edit people out of your life who challenge your values, Ruthlessly and Often!

I approve of this message……

• Focus
• Integrity
• Balance

THIRD…How Do U Do U?

There has been research that shows few people know how they get things done.

I think we can agree; different people do things differently. 

So, ask yourself how you “learn, work, and achieve?” 

This may be an even more important question, as your strengths, how you learn, work, and achieve is unique and a matter of personality.

It comes down to “2” things…what rocks your boat, and does it add value to one’s change management?

I touch on this when I suggest certain tools and practices. But just because something works for me, it may not jive with you at all.

Find your sweet spot for productivity.

• Learn
• Apply
• Achieve

FOURTH….Where R U Going?

Equally important and a return to bullet #2, when you know the answer to these questions about what you will and will not tolerate, you enable yourself to say to any challenge, opportunity, or offer, YES!  with confidence.

Whether that is a YES….I can handle that, I can do that, or I will do that!  The choice is definitively in your hands.

It makes for the kind of results you can expect because this is “who YOU are.”  You know the answers to the three questions concerning your strengths, values, and achievements, and thus, should be able to commit and decide where you do not belong.

Success through commitment

 daTOOL…A LiL Worksheet

I talk about self-knowledge and management, so my Lovelies, I have a link to a downloadable assessment sheet to aid in getting some Mo’ knowledge.  Here get your research on…personal development

Conclusion

The challenges to manage anything — time, projects, work, children, oneself — can seem like a daunting undertaking.  But I am here to tell ya, to manage yourself requires new and unprecedented action from you!

These unprecedented actions will especially mean and involve a shift from pedestrian thinking — Mundane and Borrrring to profound critical thinking.

Dearie, new ways of thinking is not Life-Threatening!  It is Life Enhancing! Taste and see…..Positive Change w/ Knowledge is Good!

As Per usual…I have LOTS to SHARE and covered a bunch! I encourage your personal success = be curious, think, and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden!!

drB                                                   

 

I keep talking about tools and helpers to aid in managing personal change.  So, I went looking for — You know, a LIST!  Well, I did not find ONE!.  I found everything else, though!  I found a helpful assortment of information and tools for specific purposes, but not quite what I was hoping to find.

Well, in light of this lack, I decided, it’s good to have an idea of the types of aids at our disposal to help manage change and development.

So, what is listed here are but nine tools and helpers for managing change.  For this post, I am going to describe each one briefly. The descriptions will cover neuro-linguistic-programming, EFT, affirmations, hypnotherapy, meditation, and more. 

Then over the next few weeks or so, I will talk about each one in greater detail.  I know you want to know more about em’, Right?!  It is your mission should you chose to accept, to let me know if something hits ya! hahaha  ALLLLRighty Then, Let’s Go!

NLP

Neuro-linguistic-programming is a method involving communication, personal development, and psychotherapy originating in the 1970s.  An interesting concept, NLP is said to be the language of the mind.

Although there is no concrete scientific evidence that supports the claims made, the process still warrants a look-see.  This is especially beneficial, if you want to know how the brain works and its effects on what you do.  I became introduced to NLP through hypnotherapy, which is also on this tool list.

It is said among NLP circles — “the conscious mind is the goal setter, and the unconscious mind is the goal getter.”  Here is a site giving a little skinny on NLP … 

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) – TAPPING

 EFT is a form of acupressure for the psyche.  It is based on a blend of traditional-ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology and uses the same energy meridians to treat physical and emotional ailments.

The practice involves tapping with your fingertips on specific body points while talking through distressing memories and a wide range of emotions.  Tapping works to physically alter your brain, energy system, and body at the same time.  The activity is easy, simple, painless, and anyone can learn.  Check it out… 

AFFIRMATIONS

I simply love affirmations.  Affirmations are positive, clear statements that help you to overcome self-sabotage and negative thoughts.  I use them daily for a variety of reasons (sometimes my brain is chattier than a child on the first day of school!).  Some of my favorite affirmations, I got from the Queen of Wellness affirmations — Louise Hay.

Anywho, these statements work because they help you visualize and accept as true your intentions.  Affirmations are a way to provide emotional support and encouragement to help you to make positive changes.  Get your positive talk on…. louisehay

HYPNOTHERAPY

Hypnotherapy is a form of psychotherapy to produce a state of sleep or unconsciousness, this state is known as hypnosis.  This therapy uses guided relaxation techniques to attain a sensitive state of awareness or trance-like state.  Hypnotherapy can invoke feelings of intense rest, concentration, and/or focus.

The therapy is commonly used as an aid that allows people to explore often painful and suppressed feelings, emotions or memories, often hidden from their consciousness.  The altering change in consciousness can often lead to experience things differently beyond the hypnosis.  You are now falling into a deep sleep….. 

MEDITATION/YOGA/EXERCISE

I joined these three “yoga/meditation/exercise” activities under one heading because you can find the terms and activities used together as a form of harmonious association.  The emphasis is on using the activities in concert to bring mental calmness and presence into your daily space.

Yoga has two chief meditative postures, and these postures act as tools for effective reflection.  It is through yoga, that a calming of the nervous system happens, and physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual stability is attainable.  OM…. 

e/BOOKS

COURSE/WORKSHOP

COACH/MENTOR/COUNSEL

These “3 plus one” (e.g., 6, 7, 8, & 9) remaining tools are actually offered by any of the thought leaders in personal wellness and development.  You just have to find the e/books, courses, workshops, coach or mentor that feels right for you.

I cannot stress this more.  The tools mentioned above is just a quick look at what they are.  There is an abundance of helpers to aid you in managing change and enjoying the journey.

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLAN

A personal development plan is a roadmap you create for action based on personal awareness, values, reflection, and intentions.  Oftentimes, this plan is constructed within the framework of your career, education, relationship or self-improvement.

This is the most individual and personal tool to assist in your development.  The key purpose is to help you improve your personal performance in managing change, and succeed by reaching and exceeding your short and long-term intentions.  An ounce of prevention plan…..

PEANUT M & M’s

The tool list and links above my lovelies are like a bag of M&M’s.  Some people like ’em with peanuts and some do not!  It is like I stated before, you have to sometimes give a change or development helper a test drive.  The first helper you choose, may very well not work for you and something else just might. You have got to keep testing till you hit PAY DIRT, a helper that adds value to your change management and personal development.

The tools and helpers above give you a starting point in looking and acquiring helpers for your “BEST YOU” toolbox!  Some are a little metaphysical (I like that Schtuff!) and some are much more tangible.

As always, my lil chickadees! I encourage you to question and be curious, manage change like a BOSS.

Stay Golden

drB

How About a Knuckle Sammich on Wheat?!

“3” life periods and where stuff begins to get REAL in retrospect!  Let me tell you once you learn and become aware, acting unaware isn’t an option.

The lesson to learn will precede, is active during, and will not end with the change.

I talked about the “1” reason for honest transformation, and it has everything to do with how ya thinking — Period.

If we want change success to stick, we have got to do an:

1) environment scan (internal and external) = Areas of Your Life

2) ask hard and sticky questions! 

That is the whole idea, Growth?! RIGHT?! 

Simply put, we manage the process to maximize our success.

Let’s have, what I like to call, a thinking cap conversation, and look at the “3” life periods — past, present, and future.  These periods have a BIG, HUGE effect on your thinking. 

Such as, what is wanted and unwanted showing up in the life environment.  Look at it from a practical perspective, what is the real good you desire small and large? Is it showing Up? 

I found to look at these times as objectively as possible.

The examination will aid in asking some hard and revealing questions about what’s really going on INSIDE and manifesting Outside.  

You will have questions, we all do! The real good needs definition, being clear is vital.

Anywhoo, we could easily talk about each of these periods separately, and we probably will!

I invite you to take a brief look right now with me. I’m going to mention “3” books that helped me look at each of these periods with a new perspective. 

I found them helpful and I hope you do too!  Let’s jump into this rabbit hole….

Thinking Cap

My quick thoughts on the “3” above……

Let’s start at the heart. Clean the attic = past = forgiveness.  

First and foremost, we must clean the heart house. Start in the ATTIC = your feelings. 

Ultimately this means a lot of forgiveness, starting with self and the people we’re holding resentments in our hearts against. 

How can I say this…? This [email protected] is TOXIC!  Don’t block blessings over perceived past hurts. 

Get your read on…. In the Meantime: “Finding Yourself and the Love You Want” by Iyanla VanZant (1999).  It will aid in softening and morphing the heart.

Number two….is NOW! Wash the dishes = present = be mindful.  

Take this to mean “2” things:

1) examine resentments  

2) do what is right in front of you, now. 

Even the smallest move in the direction of where you would like to be is a positive progression. Be mindful in thoughts, behaviors, words, and actions.

Don’t engage the Lolly-gag through life, it’s a Boo move! No balance, no LIFE! Simple.

We always have a choice. I’ve learned you either participate or live a L(ife) I(n) E(xcess). 

This comes from a person who has been living extremely imbalanced for years!  

Ask the hard questions or drift!

Dig on this read…. “Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life” by Byron Katie.

Last but not Least

How does the saying go… Trust the Process? Gas the Caaar = future

A truth if I’ve ever heard one! (uproarious laughter!!!)

Life lessons! We can make it easy and a little less challenging through trust and surrender to change.

Trust and surrender will grow you; I learned this the hard way.

Difficulties and a revolving life lesson playground will keep popping up until you get the lesson. 

Which would you prefer?

The answer to this question can mean a couple of things. If yes, it’s the following actions. If no, well what can I say?!!!

Just say YES and….

1. make a commitment to learn patience and calm as a practice
2. celebrate gratefulness for small successes daily
3. work to adopt a new perspective about what’s good right now
4. fight for your best life 

I promise you, this book will make you think about your active and present life commitments ….

“The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level” by Gay Hendricks PhD.

A bunch? You Betcha!

Be curious, think, and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB

 

 

Behind the Green Curtain….Genuine Transformation

A redesign of your current and future thinking urges positive individual action.  The same old thinking will not yield new results.

Learn to adapt.  It’s not prudent to expect and believe one report, one presentation, or one conference will help you accomplish everything desired.

Even what I am sharing here. Take what works if it rings true.

There are multiple teachers for multiple lessons. Know this!

But First….Ponder This

The Struggle is Real

The one reason behind genuine transformation is adoption of new, different, and better perspectives.  Take control of what you think!

What does this do?  It reveals a new way to imagine and create a dynamic personal approach toward change and change elements (challenge vs. struggle).

It is a personal belief and has been proven, an individual’s environment is instrumental in defining how they operate, navigate life, and set goals in general.

Your commitment in relation to change is fundamental.  Think about it, how you choose to deal with it is a major factor in your success considerably!

Human beings will choose action or inaction.  This choice is either productive or counter-productive. This means something external is a cause of struggle.

Hear me out…social expectations—usually people, keep our thoughts focused on the struggle.

Be Aware

Understanding of environmental goings-on internally and externally is a major assist.  You can now address and manage circumstances, issues or problems because you are aware.

As a strong proponent of personal growth and forward-living, I believe when we take the time to develop and learn ourselves, the effects are far-reaching.

Change and growth remove barriers, influences relationships, and thus, seeps into every area of our life.

UnCommonly Good!

How does one go above the mundane?

Forward movement requires forward thinking.  This simply means, thinking at a higher level of creativity, innovation, and visualization of the next desired progressive state.

Fundamentally, a shift, from common thinking to reasoned thinking (Collins, 2015).

Or if you will…glory to glory!

Be Aware, Again!!

The thoughts expressed above are to urge and encourage you to possess self-awareness.  Essentially, work to

While your environment is evolving and changing, it’s vital to identify possibilities and current events affecting you — positively and negatively!

Focus on the Positive. Period.  

Navigating your environment with self-knowledge and positivity is an aid in every area of your life as circumstances change economically, professionally, and socially (Collins, 2015).

The future possibilities are considerable reagarding your thinking and decision-making.

I encourage you to be curious and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB

Reference

Collins, D. (2015). You can’t get “there” from “here” why change doesn’t work. Retrieved from https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-change-doesnt-work-what-you-can-do-alan-collins

Change and Acceptance….

Isn’t this a no-brainer?

Kind of.

Change acceptance and movement are two very personal on-time actions. So, I want to talk a bit about when change CREEPS up unexpectedly or maybe not so unexpectedly!

Our last few conversations covered the “what” of managing change with tool(s) suggestions to assist in navigating the process. Well, I must apologize, I was slightly remiss. I’m gonna to do a BACKSTROKE and TIGHTEN UP a little in this post.

You see, I was having a conversation with a friend about going through change, and she said these “2” words. This truly hit home for me.  I thought to myself these “2” words are the actual actions to get you to move in the direction of something different. Well, this conversation got the ole thinking cap juices flowing.

Here are some thoughts on these “2” essential actions in the process.

So, do you want the RED or BLUE PILL…

Thinking Cap

ACCEPTANCE

Acceptance is you personally saying it is “OK” to think and feel what you think and feel when you think and feel it (Lillis, 2014). If you think about it, adopting change involves altering human behavior to accept the change.

There will be a natural resistance to the change for several reasons…

• new ideas
• experiences
• practices

So, the change adoption will not necessarily be a naturally occurring incident. Nevertheless, through work, trial and error fabulous results can emerge.

Innovation or change is only successful through examining existing notions about the way things should be and the subsequent outcome.

Be receptive to the change, evaluate new ideas objectively, and see your change results as what they could potentially be…BIG & BEAUTIFUL!

This was number #1, now on to #2

MOVEMENT

The movement component simply means…..participate.

Here’s the caveat, the change process is only successful because of choices. You’ve got to move with the understanding of needs, limitations, and challenges as the primary person in the process.

We want to move with and on this change through thoughtfully committed efforts.

I’ve learned from experience, it’s important to recognize how the change can be controlled to achieve the HAPPINESS EFFECT.

We are the skill developers – architects of an effective change process, whenever instigated. There’s NO Reality Download!

See how to craft your reactions and responses to it and perceive this to mean “surrender” and “accept.” Reflect on the “who/what/where/when/why/how of the change process as a must.  This ultimately presents ideas to achieve optimal results.

In this place of surrender and acceptance spurs movement where you can make important behavioral changes (Lillis, 2014).

The MATRIX

As humans, we’re our most persuasive resistor to change. So, understand these obstructions are not outside of us.

Know that accepting and loving what IS bears no relation to passivity.  It’s easy and yet a challenge, there must be a desire to clearly see and discern the difference between passivity and courage.

Acceptance…treat yourself as whole and lacking NOTHING. Accept yourself as is, acknowledge your worth, and pursue what matters in your life.

Movement…take charge of the change outcome for you can MAKE IT SO!

Always from my heart, mind, and soul to yours, I encourage you to be curious and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB

Lillis, J. (2014). The paradox of acceptance and change: health behavior change is best built on a foundation of self-compassion. Retrieved from http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/healthy-change/201403/the-paradox-acceptance-and-change