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Sitting on the corner of bombdiggitty

March 23, 2020 By Annette McGee

Educate Yourself

Let’s talk about “overthinking and knowing,” believe me, I know a thing or two. Just call me … “Lil miss overthinker of everything” over here.”

I’ve been an unfocused mess, worrier, and frenemy with a head full of invisible boogeymen, big and small.

Procrastination, distraction, and sabotage became pals, and we were doing just a lil too much on all the wrong things. For instance, I would do absolutely Nothing but stall, doubt, and worry about insignificant bullSh*t.

I started Fires, living with my hair in flames, constantly playing fireman to put out the fires I started!! The result of all this insignificant action was fiddle-farting around and failure to launch anything effective.

Consequently, I’ve learned this kind of fear thinking and mindset will feed worry about “everything” unknown. You can certainly trust me on this one.

Nevertheless, I still catch myself in the back and forth to work through some Sh*T!(i.e. outdated belief systems, limiting thoughts, and most of all, feelings).

So, this comes from someone who‘s been rather impulsive about things.

consistency
Trust direction over speed

In other words, I’m still learning to make sense of life.

That is to say, there’s always somehow a certain “knowing” in my spirit.

I know everything will work out despite the boogeymen.

I finally grasped, most importantly, a “move forward” is not determined by just information; new perspectives arise and shifts continue through active reflection, prayer, and writing.

My trusted allies in vanquishing boogeymen: time, patience, and willingness for thought and inquiry of expectations (mines and others) are now essential.

Forward action is then real and open with more flexibility toward possibilities to become a reality.

To sum up, while our “knowing” is fundamentally invaluable, the added bonus of this “knowing” in reality, is when we don’t know. This creates curiosity…Priceless!

No Fluff. just straight, no chaser! Hallelujah!

From this understanding, I’ve become more sensitive…

1. to triggers in my environment that contribute to my dithering

2. consider what’s reeeally going on

3. make a decision and get to moving something

Trust your intuition, gut, lessons learned, and spiritual leanings, either way, you cut it. You see, it’s your personal “knowing” (what’s known and unknown) working with timing to move the process ahead.

The most relevant action forward — “on time knowledge, for the right reasons, with the proper emphasis.”

contented knowing

You recognize what passes as good for you in the present, a mighty wonderful thing! The result is constructive and positive like sitting on the corner of bombdiggity! Booyah!

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

songVibe: Got to go through it to get to it/Graham Central Station

Filed Under: Bliss Tagged With: #creativencouragement, #divinewisdomguides, #lifelessons, #possibilitiesingrowth

Shackles…

February 29, 2020 By Annette McGee

When we examine the — who, what, where and how — of our life, we gain knowledge.

When we engage this knowledge, we make room for the kind of results one can expect because this is “who YOU are.” 

Take the yoke off, knowing is life-enhancing.  

Manage like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

Photo credit: Jen Theodore/Unsplash

Song: Just Fine/ Mary J. Blige

Filed Under: Seasons Tagged With: #possibilitiesingrowth #quikthoughtbyafmNdrB #creativencouragement #encourager #divinewisdomguides #successbydesign

Nowheresville

February 25, 2020 By Annette McGee

“It was the best of times; it was the worst of times.”

The above quote suggests an age of radical opposites.

A time of controversies and contradictions taking place.

Our lives can sometimes resemble “Nowheresville.”

A tale of two, with ironies and absurdities.

Your own Dickensian story is one of insurgency.

This will be in spite of questionable affairs, desperation, and distress.

Fight the good fight and take the lessons…use them to build your beautiful home.

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

Photo credit: Alessandra Zani

Song vibe: Stairway to Paradise (from the film “An American in Paris.”)

Filed Under: Seasons Tagged With: #possibilitiesingrowth #quikthoughtbyafmNdrB #creativencouragement #encourager #divinewisdomguides #successbydesign

How To Stop Procrastination In “4+” Moves.

February 24, 2020 By Annette McGee

Like a punch to productivity, procrastination can be the bane of existence.

Indubitably, I have a degree in it!!! 🤣🤣 Mannn, let me tell ya…I can slip down the rabbit hole in a bli9nk and there I am … in procrastination land. But really, joking aside…how can one stop procrastinating?

Spot IT when it’s Afoot!

Let’s check it out…Know What It Is

For all intents and purposes, our working definition is …. “the intentional act of postponement.” 

I think you will agree, the video gives a pretty accurate depiction of what is procrastination. On the self-level, this action can seriously stunt personal growth relating to one’s feelings of accomplishment and satisfaction. Of equal importance, in our professional careers, this type of postponement is a disruptive force to advancement.

You want to be productive…work on self, a project, create, etc., but you just can’t seem to focus to get to doing. Mucho Distracted!! Nevertheless, I believe dealing with procrastination has everything to do with how we decide to take action.

When we choose to make move on a desire and goal, this may mean a few things for us, such as:

1) a need to understand what “it” is (desire/goal)

2) patience to reason it out and choose the subsequent action (the “1” thing to get moving)

3) recognizing when procrastination is rearing its furry head and in action (physical manifestation-you’re doing other sh*t!!)

4) then create a flexible, realistic plan to stop the mutha through a strategy or strategies

I’ll be the first to admit yes, I drag my feet sometimes to take action for a vast variety of reasons, you may be able to relate to this. Even though, I see the best thing we can do for ourselves is to recognize when procrastination is overt and sneaky.

Overtly, this could be seen as the constant missing of important deadlines in every area of your life, personal and professional.  As a sneaky intruder, this could appear as the constant checking of emails or fussing around on social media under the illusion of work.

Certainly, when we engage in other peripheral activities or distractions that are not productive, we postpone constructive action (not meaning … cooking, cleaning, self-care, and household sh*t but see when these actions are clothed as procrastination too!). Gnaw on that a minute!

Brain gears

Reasoning

Employ some patience to reason and adjust action 

Can we consider this too, if we take the time to recognize when we are in procrastination mode, we then practice awareness of what we are doing. This awareness, in turn, allows us to examine the “why” of procrastination and make a plan to stop. Self-awareness acts as an aid in recognizing how it creates undue anxiety.

Let’s continue on the topic of awareness, shall we?

As an essential element in the mix, awareness cues us into knowing the “what” and “why” for the continuous postponement and goof-off. You see, an ugly cycle of anxiety is birthed when we procrastinate, remain unaware, and it’s left unchecked.

Recognition increases self-confidence and thus will help pinpoint the contributors and their associations. In that moment of recognition, it’s a good a time as any to observe “why” you may not be focused.

So, create some strategies to stop the procrastination and Eat the Elephant One Bite at A Time! Why not start today and give a name to the reason(s) for the extra random goofing-off, it’s enlightening and valuable information.

A few activities to help bring the “procrastination station” to a halt or at least to a dull Roar. Rawrrr!

Stop Procrastination

If it has to do with any of the following areas…here’s are a couple of action thoughts…..

  • Job or Work: If it’s the job/work is giving you the poo-poo’s, remember a job change or new employment is always an option. But first, though, look at all sides such as the pros and cons of the employment. What’s more, if it pertains to just the work itself, how about committing to either enhancing your capabilities and skills or finding a way to make the job a little less tedious.
  • Performing a most unpleasant task: Nobody likes doing sh*t they don’t like, but the truth is … do the undesirable task(s) first. The task will be done sooner than you think. Attempt to get those task(s) out of the way (Bye Felicia!!) and leave the more enjoyable ones to the end.
  • Personal organization: not particularly your forte, there are a few tools to help with this: to-do lists for prioritizing and accountability, personal planners, mobile applications, and more. I am sure there is a “tool” that screams your name!
  • a BIG project: Like I mentioned above… “eat this Mutha like an Elephant. One tip to ease overwhelm is breaking the project down into smaller chunks of work (you knew that!), and another tip, keep the project in perspective.

I wouldn’t be doing my thing if I didn’t offer up a Tool …… “3” minutes to kicking procrastination in the Booty! Check out the……The Quick-Step.

Know you Know you can…

If you set a personal intention to recognize, prioritize, and develop strategies to stop, know this…you will put the brakes on procrastination. Not saying it’s forever gone, but you can STOP it right at the onset before momentum is lost.

I’m cheering you to the TOP! From my heart, soul, & mind to yours……I encourage you to stay curious and manage like a Boss!

p.s Imma be a lil cliche’….. Just Do It! 👍😜

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

opening photo credit: Doug Tunison/Unsplash

Song vibe: We can work it out/Chaka Khan

Filed Under: Handle it! Tagged With: #creativencouragement, #possibilitiesingrowth, #successbydesign

Change … behind the curtain

February 8, 2020 By Annette McGee

Quik Thought…

Ponder This…

Our same old thinking will not yield us new results. We benefit when we take control of what we think!  

There will always be extremes without any in-betweens every now and then, and multiple teachers for multiple lessons along the way.

Our expectation and belief in…one person, report, presentation, or conference will not help accomplish everything we desired. Use what works if it rings true for you and learn to adapt.

**Life is all just lil bits of history repeating. You Got This!

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

Photo credit: Allie Smith/Unsplash

Song vibe…. History Repeating/Shirley Bassey

Filed Under: Seasons Tagged With: #quikthoughtsbyafmNdrB #encourager #divinewisdomguides #successbydesign

Out Loud

February 4, 2020 By Annette McGee

I once asked, what would an armistice look like in this war of mine?

Armed with the renewed understanding life has “2” constants…

***one is change and the other challenge…

Sovereignty meant everyone and everything needed clemency.

The simple answer is forgiveness, the only true route to internal peace.

Life can be full of chaos, and yet ironically, gladness too.

When our internal war is afoot…feel it, forgive it, and come full circle into your peace.

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

song vibe: I’m Coming Out

Filed Under: Seasons

God — U Is Cracking me up! Oh, what a sense of humor!

January 28, 2020 By Annette McGee

Mark Daynes/Unsplash

While we humans are making plans, there is uproarious laughter in the heavens at the bumbling, haphazard manner in which we live our lives.

I realize the words “fair” and “life” in the same sentence is a paradox, but then like most things, it’s a matter of perspective, Right?!

Life offers us some serious moments that are pretty f***ng hilarious if you think about it.

A quick detour…

Here’s a little story with a man named TED…

Po’ ole sap wanted to marry his lady faire…

There’s an 80’s movie with Ted Danson and Isabella Rossellini.

Here’s the plug…

There are complications and challenges to overcome to be together.

Whoops! They fall in love and they’re cousins. Distant cousins like very distant, but cousins nonetheless.

Of course, Ted has a conversation with his dad who gives him some sage advice….

He said — — 

“Life will hand you chickinsh*t or chickin salad, which would you PREFER?

Imma say it…always prefer the chickin salad! Go get It!

We always, always, always have a choice.

Like the story above, I choose the chikin salad, see the possible, and not let the challenges keep me from joy and laughter.

So, God and I write comedy.

We create life skits, some funny, some not so funny in the moment (meaning … an instance where I go OFF with stream of obscene words and actions!!).

The usual result from this outburst is some Bullsh*t on my part. Just plain willfulness! Nevermind.

Alex Harvey/Unsplash

Detour #2

On the other hand, let’s look a little closer, shall we at the nutjob inside

Ohhhhh, I’m laughingly scared sometimes, evvvven!!!

There’s a maniacWHOA-man that lives inside of my head. A frightening declaration!

Sh*t be funny because of how dark, twisted, and faulty it is from time to time.

Ummm, I think you know what I mean… a delicate thing until provoked, that turns into a lunatic unleashed. A Frankensteinian creation on the rampage.

Listen, my prerogative now is to truly see life’s as the good gig it is and choose to make it so as much as possible.

It’s been through this comedy fraught with navigation and attitude errors, I’ve learned many, many, many practical lessons and been blessed (a time or two, three, four…ad Infinitum).

Awareness on my part is essential to create the joy daily; and thus, leads to a happier disposition and easier adulting.

So, laugh…Got the same 24? I submit for your approval…. Laugh loud & strong

Embrace the comedy, it’s fodder for some REALLY great stories.

Derive joy in the being, and consequently, the doing then comes naturally.

Let’s adult this Sh*t with childlike wonder and laughter, life will equal …. joy.

In doing so, a shift happens in our perspective and challenges big or small become easier to manage.

Make those sounds and face movements that reflect lively amusement instead of contempt.

Don’t titter because your bitter and don’t convulse because you’re repulsed.

Laugh heartily and look for the humor in life, the daily and the mundane.

Believe me, when you laugh…

God, the Universe, and the Angels are laughing TOO…with you!

Raghav Modi/Unsplash

Stay Golden

?afm/NdrB

Filed Under: Bliss

The trans-formative magic of intention

December 7, 2019 By Annette McGee

“I don’t believe you have to be better than everybody else, I believe you have to better than you ever thought you could be.” Ken Venturi

With young, rose-hued exuberance, I had grand ideas.

A lifetime spent in wreckless abandon, self-medication was a foremost element to provide courage to live. Life was a real no goood Charley existence.

To clarify, I realize how much I can create the discord and uneasiness that radiates out to others and manifests in my life. 

Consequently, I’ve learned a thing or two or three over the years. 

You can’t make this stuff uP! Even so, I’ve come to see an acceptance of what is and respect for what has been as golden. Time and age have taught me resilience and tenacity.

My desire to make better life decisions, trust myself and trust God in my life is what matters now. There are thanks being given in all things, the good and the not-so-good.

Enter “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz

I use these intents daily to guide my prayers and help lead me to quiet, balanced and joyfull living.

These practical agreements can help anyone to live with freedom and peace. 

To illustrate, I commit to…
Ø I honor my personal agreements – my thoughts and spoken words are powerful. I create boundaries where I’ve once had none.
Ø take nothing personally – it’s not about me. I’ve come to realize and understand what people think, say and do reflect them not me.
Ø don’t make assumptions – as Felix Unger would say “when you assume, you make an ass of you and me.” I ask questions, I get clarity.
Ø I always do my best – maintain integrity in everything I do.

My spirit whispers … be consistent. 

I’ve fought to chase away the distractions in this becoming, and with the same gusto, I’m addicted to having my sh*t together!

In other words, a requirement for living well is my active participation, not my passive onlooking. Even more, it means to show up and commit to balance in the present moment.

An ongoing, habit-forming work helps me to practice calmness. I get it now. You see, when I get right down to it, “this moment is what it’s all about in the quest to live brave.” 

So Yes, have a little “peace of mind” pie, thank you!

Inspire Encourage Motivate

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

*** One last gem by Louise Hay… “Turn every experience into an opportunity.”

It’s YOUR time. Learn to grow and bloom where you’re planted on this journey! With love use every experience as an opportunity to grow and find inspiration to say “YES and!”

songVibe: I’m Still Standing/Elton John

Photo credit: designecologist/Unsplash

 

Filed Under: Stories n the Key of Life

Monster & Magnificence, Better Understood

November 30, 2019 By Annette McGee

From distraction to freedom
I know difficult relationship stuff, fully and intimately. So, with a thoughtful eye, I re-visit judgements on my maternal association.
I love her very much and moments of anxiety about our relationship have saddened me. The relationship has been a trying one with some interesting dynamics.

Nevertheless, I eventually became sufficiently “worn-out from carrying the weight of unforgiveness, I choose to drop it.”
Our bond has gotten better since returning home, I cuss and pray a lot! I’ve written on these feelings before; however, my lens at the time of that writing was still tainted.
Evergreen life lessons have been learned in our relationship journeys. I now attempt to understand not just our relationship better but all my relationships better.

Here I am a woman of a certain age

From a healthier view, I realize “she & I” are one (in our generational family dysfunction). Two sides of the same coin…. shadow and light.
We share the same inner A**hat, the parts cracked, scared, hurting, defensive and too proud. The humor…this story is nothing novel.

Dorothy, I came home!
I once read an article where a woman reflected on her difficult mother/daughter relationship and her conflicted feelings.
My question after reading …. how do I reconcile a conflict of so many feelings?
My answer… right here in this space is how I heal and grow. Personal and emotional growth lies on the other side of willingness with admission and acceptance that self-love begins here. As I heal, so does she. We are One. 

Monster & Magnificence, this is ME.

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

**songVibe: This Is Me/The Greatest Showman Soundtrack

Photo credit:

#1 Felicia Buitenwerf/Unsplash

Filed Under: Stories n the Key of Life

A Touch of Love

November 26, 2019 By Annette McGee

Niklas Hamann/Unsplash

sense
overflow and surround
just a little bit
serious magic
stage a moment of yes, just a little bit
unbridle feel-good junkie participation
shining star, no matter who you are
can you spend some time
in the middle of the shrubbery maze life
awaken beauty in time to spring forth anew
in my mind, just a little bit, just a little bit
let it show this heaven-sent tenor
in due course rapture ascending, just a lil bit
soft as a smile, playful, tender, and benevolent
far and wide lyrically present
rock solid love’s clear splendor

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

Filed Under: Poetry from d'MonkeyHouse

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About Me

Annette F. McGee

aka Nortorius drB.

Life, like the weather, can be unpredictable with sudden change, but it shows us new perspectives daily.

I think it’s in these unpredictable life moments and experiences we may sometimes need a "New Attitude” to navigate events well.

So, you see in that department, encouragement is my jam, my desire, and my intention.

These creative offerings come in various written, musical, and visual forms to inspire, encourage, and motivate...

  • a quik thought
  • an essay or poem
  • a song
  • a picture

Whatever the form, hopefully, I present a perspective worthy of deeper thought for a new and personal expansion.

Just one gurl's thoughts on life and living, and a simple quest for more joy and wellness in every area of life.

Stay Golden

💃afm/NdrB

"Sometimes we forget we have the power to change our lives! Let this be a reminder that we can empower ourselves to make the changes that are necessary for our lives to progress. God has given us a free will to change what MUST be changed in us! #GoGetIT CJGreene 

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