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Personal Change Management – Part Deux

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personal change management

Development  & Doh!

Personal change management is the act of taking stock of your circumstances and taking actions to get a favorable outcome.

I talk about personal change management and development……BECAUSE…..I am that GIRL.   At around age 50, I started getting arrested, went to jail and prison, and decided I had to make some serious decisions concerning my future life.

Late Bloomer Boomer!  I became a mature student, got 2.75 degrees in 10 years in management and leadership.  I am an expert at personal change management.

My life, experiences (& there have been some doozies!), readings, and research have shown me many ways and principles of change, changing, and the change process.  My educational journey has significantly added to the personal development toolbox.

Change, So What the H*ck is It, Anyway? 

Think about it and give it serious thought.  I am sure you can remember many a situation that brought about some major life changes.  Sometimes, these changes were abrupt, some were pretty sneaky.

Nevertheless, as change occurs or is occurring, how you handle the change affects the evolution throughout your environment (LIFE).  The need here is to consider the possibilities concerning your future decision-making, life, and other important aspects.

Changing…..An Ideal Future — OMGosh! Ideal

You are changing and you want to be serious about your personal development.  But you, either Stop or procrastinate BIG time?  I am here to say…Knock it OFF!!!

I get it, I can be a lazy galoot, myself.  But, I am talking about the “I can’t handle this” idea!  If you know like I think you know, this kind of thinking will have you stuck like Chuck!  On the positive, this thinking does not have to break you down or stop you.

Just because you got caught off-guard, zigging when you would have done better zagging!  You can always get back up and take the bronco ride, roll, and flow with the change.  Just flat out handle the Schtuff!  Manage personal change like a Boss!!!

Change Process…..Thinking Cap 

Change, in all its forms, takes time.  I totally get it.  I know you do too! This is understandable.  The change process can be scary because of the unknowns.  You have to believe it will work.  Adopt a new way of being, and a new perspective about EVERYTHING!  The results, a Big “YOU” transformation.  Think about it, this change may have been long coming.  Welcome and Embrace IT.   

Do you know who you are? REALLY?  Do you know what makes your SOUL and Spirit Smile?  Can you see how all the parts of your life, present, the past, and future (e.g., people, places and things, Oh MY!) interconnect, how they work over time and their place in the larger scheme of your desired life and living.

A Journey Where You Have NOT Gone Before 

Focus on personal change management

In some instances, change will make it necessary to alter your life design, to meet future goals and actions.   Genuine transformation will call for a life redesign.  Change the thinking behind the current thinking.  You see, the intentional focus is the creation of new thinking–dynamic, active, and applicable to you and your life.  https://possibilitiesingrowth.com/2017/06/15/one-reason-behind-genuine-transformation/

Dang, I will say it again…..change needs managing!  First, you want to get through the change.  Second, you want to be successful with the change.  I believe this involves four actions ….. open-mindedness, adaptability, progress through (acceptance), and success (movement).  Each one of the actions work in tandem to a change victory.  It is your call on how this is going to go down.

As I read and learn (I am into sharing), you will also learn.  We are on this journey together.  There is a vast amount of information out there to help with living your best life, but not much on managing change to achieving your best life. The ideas I present are suggestions to finding tools, practices, and habits that work for you!

I am here as your personal change concierge, to assist you in seeing the bigger picture and the possibilities in managing change.  If you desire to apply a new perspective and lend yourself to the imminent transformation.

My tool suggestion for the month is….Mirror Work by Louise Hay.  Here is the link for more information: http://www.louisehay.com/what-is-mirror-work/

This mirror stuff works, my lovelies!  Try it.  It is all about loving yourself to elevate your GAME.  A good tool to have in managing your personal change. As always, I encourage you to question, be curious, learn, and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden!

drB

 

 

 

 

 

“3” Life Periods. Change SetUP- Environment Aspects

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How About a Knuckle Sammich on Wheat?!

“3” life periods and where stuff begins to get REAL in retrospect!  Let me tell you once you learn and become aware, acting unaware isn’t an option.

The lesson to learn will precede, is active during, and will not end with the change.

I talked about the “1” reason for honest transformation, and it has everything to do with how ya thinking — Period.

If we want change success to stick, we have got to do an:

1) environment scan (internal and external) = Areas of Your Life

2) ask hard and sticky questions! 

That is the whole idea, Growth?! RIGHT?! 

Simply put, we manage the process to maximize our success.

Let’s have, what I like to call, a thinking cap conversation, and look at the “3” life periods — past, present, and future.  These periods have a BIG, HUGE effect on your thinking. 

Such as, what is wanted and unwanted showing up in the life environment.  Look at it from a practical perspective, what is the real good you desire small and large? Is it showing Up? 

I found to look at these times as objectively as possible.

The examination will aid in asking some hard and revealing questions about what’s really going on INSIDE and manifesting Outside.  

You will have questions, we all do! The real good needs definition, being clear is vital.

Anywhoo, we could easily talk about each of these periods separately, and we probably will!

I invite you to take a brief look right now with me. I’m going to mention “3” books that helped me look at each of these periods with a new perspective. 

I found them helpful and I hope you do too!  Let’s jump into this rabbit hole….

Thinking Cap

My quick thoughts on the “3” above……

Let’s start at the heart. Clean the attic = past = forgiveness.  

First and foremost, we must clean the heart house. Start in the ATTIC = your feelings. 

Ultimately this means a lot of forgiveness, starting with self and the people we’re holding resentments in our hearts against. 

How can I say this…? This [email protected] is TOXIC!  Don’t block blessings over perceived past hurts. 

Get your read on…. In the Meantime: “Finding Yourself and the Love You Want” by Iyanla VanZant (1999).  It will aid in softening and morphing the heart.

Number two….is NOW! Wash the dishes = present = be mindful.  

Take this to mean “2” things:

1) examine resentments  

2) do what is right in front of you, now. 

Even the smallest move in the direction of where you would like to be is a positive progression. Be mindful in thoughts, behaviors, words, and actions.

Don’t engage the Lolly-gag through life, it’s a Boo move! No balance, no LIFE! Simple.

We always have a choice. I’ve learned you either participate or live a L(ife) I(n) E(xcess). 

This comes from a person who has been living extremely imbalanced for years!  

Ask the hard questions or drift!

Dig on this read…. “Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life” by Byron Katie.

Last but not Least

How does the saying go… Trust the Process? Gas the Caaar = future

A truth if I’ve ever heard one! (uproarious laughter!!!)

Life lessons! We can make it easy and a little less challenging through trust and surrender to change.

Trust and surrender will grow you; I learned this the hard way.

Difficulties and a revolving life lesson playground will keep popping up until you get the lesson. 

Which would you prefer?

The answer to this question can mean a couple of things. If yes, it’s the following actions. If no, well what can I say?!!!

Just say YES and….

  1. make a commitment to learn patience and calm as a practice
  2. celebrate gratefulness for small successes daily
  3. work to adopt a new perspective about what’s good right now
  4. fight for your best life 

I promise you, this book will make you think about your active and present life commitments ….

“The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level” by Gay Hendricks PhD.

A bunch? You Betcha!

Be curious, think, and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB

 

 

The One Reason behind Genuine Transformation

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Behind the Green Curtain….Genuine Transformation

A redesign of your current and future thinking urges positive individual action.  The same old thinking will not yield new results.

Learn to adapt.  It’s not prudent to expect and believe one report, one presentation, or one conference will help you accomplish everything desired.

Even what I am sharing here. Take what works if it rings true.

There are multiple teachers for multiple lessons. Know this!

But First….Ponder This

one reason

A Genuine Transformation Journey

The Struggle is Real

The one reason behind genuine transformation is adoption of new, different, and better perspectives.  Take control of what you think!  

What does this do?  It reveals a new way to imagine and create a dynamic personal approach toward change and change elements (challenge vs. struggle).

It is a personal belief and has been proven, an individual’s environment is instrumental in defining how they operate, navigate life, and set goals in general. 

Your commitment in relation to change is fundamental.  Think about it, how you choose to deal with it is a major factor in your success considerably!

Human beings will choose action or inaction.  This choice is either productive or counter-productive. This means something external is a cause of struggle.  

Hear me out…social expectations—usually people, keep our thoughts focused on the struggle.

Be Aware

Understanding of environmental goings-on internally and externally is a major assist.  You can now address and manage circumstances, issues or problems because you are aware.

As a strong proponent of personal growth and forward-living, I believe when we take the time to develop and learn ourselves, the effects are far-reaching. 

Change and growth remove barriers, influences relationships, and thus, seeps into every area of our life.

UnCommonly Good!

How does one go above the mundane? 

Forward movement requires forward thinking.  This simply means, thinking at a higher level of creativity, innovation, and visualization of the next desired progressive state. 

Fundamentally, a shift, from common thinking to reasoned thinking (Collins, 2015).

Or if you will…glory to glory!

Be Aware, Again!!

The thoughts expressed above are to urge and encourage you to possess self-awareness.  Essentially, work to

While your environment is evolving and changing, it’s vital to identify possibilities and current events affecting you — positively and negatively!

Focus on the Positive. Period.  

Navigating your environment with self-knowledge and positivity is an aid in every area of your life as circumstances change economically, professionally, and socially (Collins, 2015).

The future possibilities are considerable reagarding your thinking and decision-making.

I encourage you to be curious and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB

Reference

Collins, D. (2015). You can’t get “there” from “here” why change doesn’t work. Retrieved from https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-change-doesnt-work-what-you-can-do-alan-collins

 

Change Acceptance and Movement…..2 Very Personal Actions.

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Change and Acceptance….

Isn’t this a no-brainer?

Kind of.

Change acceptance and movement are two very personal on-time actions. So, I want to talk a bit about when change CREEPS up unexpectedly or maybe not so unexpectedly!

Our last few conversations covered the “what” of managing change with tool(s) suggestions to assist in navigating the process. Well, I must apologize, I was slightly remiss. I’m gonna to do a BACKSTROKE and TIGHTEN UP a little in this post.

You see, I was having a conversation with a friend about going through change, and she said these “2” words. This truly hit home for me.  I thought to myself these “2” words are the actual actions to get you to move in the direction of something different. Well, this conversation got the ole thinking cap juices flowing.

Here are some thoughts on these “2” essential actions in the process.

So, do you want the RED or BLUE PILL…

Thinking Cap

Change acceptance movement

Slippery when Wet

ACCEPTANCE

Acceptance is you personally saying it is “OK” to think and feel what you think and feel when you think and feel it (Lillis, 2014). If you think about it, adopting change involves altering human behavior to accept the change. 

There will be a natural resistance to the change for several reasons…

  • new ideas
  • experiences
  • practices

So, the change adoption will not necessarily be a naturally occurring incident. Nevertheless, through work, trial and error fabulous results can emerge.

Innovation or change is only successful through examining existing notions about the way things should be and the subsequent outcome. 

Be receptive to the change, evaluate new ideas objectively, and see your change results as what they could potentially be…BIG & BEAUTIFUL!

This was number #1, now on to #2

MOVEMENT 

The movement component simply means…..participate. 

Here’s the caveat, the change process is only successful because of choices. You’ve got to move with the understanding of needs, limitations, and challenges as the primary person in the process.

 We want to move with and on this change through thoughtfully committed efforts.

I’ve learned from experience, it’s important to recognize how the change can be controlled to achieve the HAPPINESS EFFECT.

We are the skill developers – architects of an effective change process, whenever instigated. There’s NO Reality Download!  

Change acceptance movement

Move Something

See how to craft your reactions and responses to it and perceive this to mean “surrender” and “accept.” Reflect on the “who/what/where/when/why/how of the change process as a must.  This ultimately presents ideas to achieve optimal results.  

In this place of surrender and acceptance spurs movement where you can make important behavioral changes (Lillis, 2014).

The MATRIX

As humans, we’re our most persuasive resistor to change. So, understand these obstructions are not outside of us. 

Know that accepting and loving what IS bears no relation to passivity.  It’s easy and yet a challenge, there must be a desire to clearly see and discern the difference between passivity and courage.

Acceptance…treat yourself as whole and lacking NOTHING. Accept yourself as is, acknowledge your worth, and pursue what matters in your life.  

Movement…take charge of the change outcome for you can MAKE IT SO!

Always from my heart, mind, and soul to yours, I encourage you to be curious and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB

 

Lillis, J. (2014). The paradox of acceptance and change: health behavior change is best built on a foundation of self-compassion. Retrieved from http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/healthy-change/201403/the-paradox-acceptance-and-change

 

 

 

 

Change Management — KickA** Tools! Power Rangers!

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Posting Light…Good for You and Low in Calories, Too!

Let’s talk about management helpers, aids in our change success. A positive outcome doesn’t happen in isolation.

Here’s a couple of the various tools at your disposal to assist in managing the process.  Some of the various aids/tools I have used and m currently using. I found their use added value to the process and outcome.

Mighty Power Helpers…. 

The whole idea of personal change management is the action is one of participation. This is how we get to celebrate small successes daily that reinforce the positive values of the change.

Why do I call the tools ….Power Helpers? They simply help us WIN! These tools enhance change actions and work in tandem with what you’re doing.

Our choices, actions plus tools make us proficient every day at becoming more capable in the change practice.  Mighty power rangers enhance our strength, durability, agility and combat prowess! (remember: we are fighting to be our best selves).  Locking the change in place like breathing! Before it is done, you have developed new habits. Boom!

Superhero…. Stronger! Priceless!

These tools can become your Superpowers! The wealth of aids to accommodate how you learn is expansive, every form available, from yoga, Qigong, dance, tapping (EFT, also known as emotional freedom technique), hypnosis and NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) to prayer, affirmations, meditation, inspirational books, webinars, videos, and podcasts.

Honestly, these helpers make the process better and keep you connected to Source.

Don’t be WIMPY! Get yo’ Superpower ON!!

At the end of the day, when we set our change goals, we need to make sure we address areas of mind, body, and spirit. Alignment is key. Establish connection practices for mind, body, and spirit essential to success. The variety of forms allows you.  Woohoo!

I have tried just about everything listed here, my established go-to’s are prayer, affirmations, and more prayer.

Stack the deck in your favor! Individually and in combination, helpers possess their own unique purpose. Use them together to make a Superpower team.  The collective value of this teaming is a maximum positive affecting the change process. We have taken another step in giving ourselves permission to WIN!

Ask Yourself

From my heart, mind, and soul, I encourage you to be curious and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB

 

Change Management in Individual Personal Development – Really!

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First things First……Imma real Optimist! Okay.

As you will see, I am a BIG proponent of encouraging intelligence, progressive thought, and authentic soul living.  I believe in using change management in successful personal evolution.  I strive in each blog post to reveal some aspect for you to consider in your personal “D”(evelopment)!

Now ……..What the H*ck?!?! – part 1

Change management — is a process for navigating change.

If you think about, we as humans are mutually intricate and complex.  Okay so, change management in all its glory has “3” very instrumental and diverse aspects to consider: A(ffect) change, C(ontrol) change, and A(dapt)

YES, look at “ACA (Affected Care Act)” as ” LIFE” health insurance. Proactive “You” maintenance!!!  

Three areas of managing change, command central to the process.

As you are so keenly aware, we encounter changing conditions daily over which we are powerless.  

So, with all the grace you can muster, fix what’s not working and keep Pushing!

This is what control and adapt is about, the ability to do so begins with us!  

Thinking Cap

The three central aspects aforementioned sustain new growth consistently.

Check it, whether already in a change process or planning change, it’s necessary to move something (preferable thought) to affect the effect, control, and adapt.

Let us examine this further…

A(ffect): the “YOU” ingredient — the external force to produce the desired LIFE effect!
C(ontrol): instrumental to ensure alignment with personal needs. It’s also equally important to support each change with awareness.
A(dapt): re-evaluate the strategy or method and establish responsive coping tools to the changing life environment.

Just a few brainBombs.

I encourage you to be curious and manage change like a BOSS!

Stay Golden

?afm/drB